You know what'd be much much MUCH kinder? If you moved to Russia and learned his language instead.
International Adoption, Fraud, and "Orphans" @ http://www.momlogic.com/2010/07/international_adoption_fraud_and_orphans.php
Western parents who adopt from the developing world often believe they're in the midst of a double blessing: expanding their families by bringing home deeply wanted children and at the same time offering those children - orphans! - a happier, better life than they ever could have led in their own impoverished countries. There's nothing wrong with this belief - these parents' hearts are in the right place - but a recent article suggests that in many cases, the facts of international adoption aren't what they seem.
Child trafficking disguised as adoption @ http://www.wnd.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=54648#ixzz1NiHwnavt
__Children not commodities of international trade__
Of all the ways children are trafficked, however, one of the most undetected remains through international adoption, which has been on the rise for years, from 6,472 in 1992 to 22,728 in 2005 in the U.S. alone.
While parents around the globe are presented with opportunities to rescue orphans from impoverished backgrounds, many adoptions are inadvertently masking and perpetuating the dark world of child trafficking. Prospective parents must beware that just because visas are issued doesn't mean the child is not a victim of the adoptive market. Child trafficking is not just a sexual and labor trade – it's pro-adoption, too!
Re-evaluating Adoption: Validating the Local @ http://dissidentvoice.org/2008/02/re-evaluating-adoption-validating-the-local/
The Baby Trade @ http://www.againstchildtrafficking.org/2010/12/the-baby-trade/
Child Laundering as Exploitation: Applying AntiTrafficking Norms to Intercountry Adoption Under the Coming Hague Regime @ http://works.bepress.com/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1005&context=david_smolinhttp://www.google.co.uk/search?q=+site:www.adoptionarticlesdirectory.com+international+adoptees
It's entirely possible to help someone parent without snatching their child away from them: Each One Help One @ http://www.values.com/your-inspirational-stories/1306-EACH-ONE-HELP-ONE
My aparents have had to watch as their kid goes through all of the agony and trauma that comes with being adopted. They have had absolutely no help in dealing with any of this - as all good parents do, they winged it. It's testament to their brilliance that I'm even remotely sane (hush you lot at the back! :p) and a functioning member of society.
Adoption screws kids up. It's not a fact that the adoption mongers like seeing said in public, but it's true. Not every kid, obviously - some on here are happy to've been adopted, but a surprisingly high percentage of us grow up deeply screwed up.
I was abandoned to adoption at seven months old. I honestly and truly wish that I'd been aborted instead of abandoned to adoption, so please be prepared for the fact that any kid you adopt could grow up to be as screwed up as me (I'm almost 40, so legally "grown up" in pretty much everywhere).
Actually, if you adopt, the kid still won't be your own. You need to be able to deal with the fact that being a parent to an adoptee is NOT the same as being a parent to your own child. It will not elicit the same feelings in you, and your gut reactions will be off because there is no genetic similarity to recognise. Yes, you'll learn it all in time, and if you're a good a'rent, you won't even take out your frustration at the kid not being your own child on the child you adopt instead.
I suggest you read the links and blurb mentioned in the Best Answer (as chosen by voters) @ http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20101114222810AAiOtS3
and then read back through a few months worth of resolved questions here in Y!A adoption.
Comprehend that lot, and you'll be about ready to adopt. :)