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Available adoption situations @ Adoption Truth and Transparency Worldwide Network

Professional Adoption Situations @ abcadoptions dot com /prosituations1210.htm actually made me vomit in my mouth.

Babies for sale @ http://adoptioncritic.com/2011/08/18/babies-for-sale/

7rin

Links to threads that have exploded, and which demonstrate aptly the attitudes displayed towards adoption and adoptees.

The Skeptical Mother's Page posted a picture of a very young bmom with her newborn baby daughter, just before she hands her over to the adopters.

7rin

Y!AA Q @ http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20121024062325AAGNZ35

Adoption. Does Facebook have any good foster/adoption groups?

Obviously, I shared a few (not all the groups are run by me)... :p

( Public groups )

( Closed groups )

( I also run some pages... )

7rin

EITHER PARENT OR ABORT!

DO NOT ABANDON YOUR CHILD TO ADOPTION!

Also DO NOT contact anyone on here who's saying "mail mail me, I'll snatch your baby away from you"

Adoption or Parenting Not Always the Best Choice
@ http://thenotsodailyherald.wordpress.com/2010/07/27/adoption-or-parenting-not-always-the-best-option/

Abortion is a simple medical procedure which ends a pregnancy
@ http://www.positive.org/JustSayYes/abortion.html

http://www.prochoice.org/

It is entirely possible to have an abortion and not feel guilt because you knew it was the right thing to do: http://www.imnotsorry.net/

http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2009/03/breaking-silence-on-living-pro-lifers.html

Abortion: There is a Consensus: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsSQiazUvgo

Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Considering Adoption
@ http://www.exiledmothers.com/ adoption_facts/wish.html (close gap in URL)

What you should KNOW if you're considering adoption for your baby
@ http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index.php?id=1

Considering adoption? Don't feel you have any other options?
@ http://www.keepyourbaby.com/

Myths told the unmarried mother
@ http://gift-not-choice.tripod.com/myths-about-asfa.html

Adoption Truth
@ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOZGwqHVnKs

Unplanned Pregnancy without Crisis
@ http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm

Open adoption is almost never legally enforceable, and many parents have lost access to their children due to broken "open" adoption promises.
@ http://www.mercianeclectics.dsl.pipex.com/adoption/OpenAdoptionWall.htm
@ http://www.bringperihome.com/
@ http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100709095305AAjeM4z
@ http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100830162150AAi478W

Quotes taken from Nancy Verrier's book, Coming Home to Self
@ www.nancyverrier.com/self_book.php

For the adoptee every day is a challenge of trying to figure out how to be, although he probably doesn't understand the difficulty this presents for him. It has been true his whole life and, therefore, feels normal. However, it takes a great deal of energy and concentration. And it never feels quite right. He never quite fits. Therefore he feels as if /he/ is never quite right.
(pg 50)

Abandonment and neglect are reported to be the two most devastating experiences that children endure - even more devastating then sexual or physical abuse. That's why some neglected children do naughty things to get attention. Even though the attention is hurtful - being yelled at, hit, or otherwise harmed - it is better than neglect. /Anything/ is better than abandonment. Abandonment is a child's greatest fear. For adoptees, it is also reality, embedded in their implicit and unintegrated memory.
(pg 102)

It is sometimes difficult to spot grief in children. After all, it isn't as if the child sits in a puddle of tears his entire childhood. As one adoptee said, "Of course I played, laughed, sang. Do people think that if you're not sitting in a corner with your head on your knees, you are not sad? I had happy times, but the sadness was always there, even when I was having fun."
(pg 117)

_____Links supporting families to stay together_____

Single Mom @ http://www.singlemom.com/
Mentor Moms/MOPS/Teen MOPS (support!) @ http://www.mops.org/
Angel Food (food assistance) @ http://www.angelfoodministries.com/
Feeding America (food assistance) @ http://www.feedingamerica.org/
Co-Abode (housing assistance) @ http://www.coabode.com/
Safe Families (for emergency/crisis care) @ http://www.safe-families.org/
Teens @ http://www.teenbreaks.com/pregnancy/pregnancyhome.cfm
Adoption Crossroads® and Adoption Healing @ http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org
Adopted Child Syndrome @ http://www.amfor.net/acs
Origins-USA @ http://www.origins-usa.org
United Family Services @ http://www.unitedfamilyservices.org/
Family Assistance Foundation @ http://www.familyassistancefoundation.com/
Safelink Wireless @ http://www.safelinkwireless.com/

Finally, I suggest you take notice of the fact that adoption does NOT "save" kids:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080229225608AA9mqS9
http://lubbockonline.com/crime-and-courts/2010-12-22/lubbock-man-arrested-sexually-assaulting-adoptive-daughters

Nor that APs will necessarily care for you like they pretend:
@ http://adoptiveparentsspeak.wordpress.com/
@ http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100106130510AA4Ekce

Good luck!

Current Mood: apathetic

7rin

INTUTE Home › Web resources › Social sciences › Social welfare › Families › Adoption and foster care @ http://www.intute.ac.uk/cgi-bin/browse.pl?id=120822

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Late discovery of being adopted @ http://www.findmyfamily.org/articles/late-discovery-adoptee.html

Adopted – but we didn't know @ http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/jan/02/adoption-children-family

What is it with so many late discovery adoptees? (Y!A) @ http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091022060246AAcJz0S

For those who discovered they were adopted after they've reached adulthood @ http://www.latediscovery.org/

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Brian Moore: the abuse and abandonment that shaped rugby's Pit Bull @ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/6923457/Brian-Moore-the-abuse-and-abandonment-that-shaped-rugbys-Pit-Bull.html

Brian Moore: I was abused as a child @ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/6923509/Brian-Moore-I-was-abused-as-a-child.html

7rin

See the question asked at http://community.livejournal.com/adoptedintheuk/4464.html

Confessions of a Sperm Donor: Hundreds of Kids

My Daddy’s Name is Donor: A New Study of Young Adults Conceived through Sperm Donation

15 major findings

Young adults conceived through sperm donation (or "donor offspring") experience profound struggles with their origins and identities.
Family relationships for donor offspring are more often characterized by confusion, tension, and loss.
Donor offspring often worry about the implications of interacting with - and possibly forming intimate relationships with - unknown, blood-related family members.
Donor offspring are more likely to have experienced divorce or multiple family transitions in their families of origin.
Donor offspring are more likely than those raised by their biological parents to struggle with serious, negative outcomes such as delinquency, substance abuse, and depression, even when controlling for socio-economic and other factors.
Donor offspring born to heterosexual married couples, single mothers, or lesbian couples share many similarities.
At the same time, there appear to be notable differences between donor offspring born to heterosexual married couples, single mothers, and lesbian couples.
Donor offspring broadly affirm a right to know the truth about their origins.
About half of donor offspring have concerns about or serious objections to donor conception itself, even when parents tell the children the truth about their origins.
Openness alone does not appear to resolve the complex risks that are associated with being conceived through sperm donation.
While a majority of donor offspring support a right to know the truth about their origins, significant majorities also support, at least in the abstract, a strikingly libertarian approach to reproductive technologies in general.
Adults conceived through sperm donation are far more likely than others to become sperm or egg donors or surrogates themselves.
Those donor offspring who do not support the practice of donor conception are more than three times as likely to say they do not feel they can express their views in public.
Donor conception is not "just like" adoption.
Today's grown donor offspring present a striking portrait of racial, ethnic, and religious diversity.

7rin

Allison Quets and Her Battle For Her Children

LDS adoption horror story By The ODea Family | September 27, 2007

'Baby Emma' case puts state adoption laws between father, child

7rin

Adoption and Loss: The Hidden Grief
Evelyn Burns Robinson @ http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/Adoption&Loss.html (dead link, but review available @ http://www.ccnm-mothers.ca/English/articles/Robinson.htm )

Adoption Healing... the path to recovery for mothers who lost children to adoption
Joe Soll @ https://www.adoptionhealing.com/Moms/

Adoptees in Reunion: The Psychological Integration of Adoption, Motivations for Reunion, and the Reunion Relationship
@ http://www.nla.gov.au/openpublish/index.php/aja/article/view/1447/1776 {.pdf format}

Adoption: Uncharted Waters
David Kirschner @ http://www.adoptionunchartedwaters.com/

Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self
David Brodzinsky @ http://library.adoption.com/articles/being-adopted-the-lifelong-search-for-self.html

Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up
Nancy Verrier @ http://nancyverrier.com/coming-home-to-self/

Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness
Betty Jean Lifton @ http://www.plumsite.com/bjlifton/

Lost and Found: the Adoption Experience
Betty Jean Lifton @ http://www.plumsite.com/bjlifton/

The Adopted break Silence
Jean Paton @ http://www.uoregon.edu/~adoption/archive/PatonTABS.htm

The Girls Who Went Away
Ann Fessler @ www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/

The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child
Nancy Verrier @ http://nancyverrier.com/the-primal-wound/

Unlearning Adoption: A Guide to Family Preservation and Protection
Jessica DelBalzo @ http://books.google.co.uk/books/about/Unlearning_Adoption.html?id=AjeXPAAACAAJ

Without a map
Meredith Hall @ http://meredithhall.org/

7rin

Statistics on the Effects of Adoption

Key Facts about Adoption from After Adoption dot org.

Summary statistics on children in care and children adopted from care, and searching for birth relatives in England.

UK abortion by gestational age 2004

Current Mood: weird

7rin

Putative Father Registries

Fathers' rights movements by country

Parental responsibility

If you are a father, but you are not married to your partner and the children are not living with you then you may not have the right to make important decisions concerning the children. If you want this right then you can apply to the court for an order. This is called a "Parental Responsibility Order".

If you are or were married to your partner then you will already have Parental Responsibility. This means you have a right to be kept informed about your children's education, health, welfare and you can make decisions about their education, health and welfare.

Y!A
Fathers right in adoption?

Birth father's rights after an adoption?