Please can someone explain Adoption to me...?

[7rin]

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Elizabet...

Adoption is when a child is forced to call strangers "Mom" and "Dad". In most cases the adoptee loses his/her name. In all cases, the child's rightful birth certificate is sealed by the state, and a new falsified birth certificate is issued. Often times, the adopted child grows up feeling unwanted and unloved. Often he/she wonders "Why am I so horrible that my own mother gave me away?"

Open adoption is like watching a movie about your life, but someone else is playing the staring role. You get to watch your sibling(s) living the life you were meant to live, but not allowed to. You get to wonder why your brother/sister was good enough to keep, but you were not. If you have visits with your real mother, you get to watch her leave you. Over and over and over again. Re-truamatizing the day she left you at the hospital.

Source(s): Anti-adoption

grapesgu...

Open adoption is a scam invented by the adoption industry to increase the rate of abandonment of newborns to adoption brokers who make huge profits off young/poor women.

The best explanation of the origin of open adoption is "Open Adoption: They knew it would work";

http://www.keepyourbaby.com/open_adoptio…

Millions of parents have been scammed by adoption agencies and adoptive parents. They handed their flesh and blood over to shysters and lost their children forever.

Open adoption = open lies.

Source(s): My daughter's best friend lost her son to adoptive parents who told her bold-faced lies about an "open" adoption. She has not seen her son since he was 3 days old. He is five years old - residence unknown.
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life is like the ocean

Open adoption is the proverbial carrot that agencies and adoptive parents use to lure young women into surrendering their baby. It is not enforceable in any court of law. So, basically, even if a young women is promised openness, it rarely happens, and when it doesn't, the natural mother has no rights whatsoever.

Most women that have relinquished and choose openness, is so they have at least some peace of mind, some sort of humanity to help them through the empty years of overwhelming loss. They were sold on openness, and had it shoved down their throats, only to find out when it is too late... it was a selling tactic. A boldface lie. Then they are left to deal with the loss of their baby without the simple human decency of allowing them to know that their child is alive and well.

Newborn adoption is an industry. Newborns bring big bucks to agencies. Agencies are hired by adoptive parents to go out and "find" a newborn. To find a young woman in a crisis situation, swoop in like a vulture, use lies and deceit to procure the baby......then dispose of the natural mother as if she is a human incubator.

These are the cold hard truths of newborn adoption. It is inhumane and barbaric for mothers and infants to be torn apart like this. Especially, in the unethical and deceitful manner that agencies perpetuate. It should be criminal, it is a henious act against women and infants. No human being should have a price tag on their flesh, especially a tiny precious infant.

Instead of preserving families and doing everything possible to keep mothers and babies together, agencies step in to a womans most vulnerable time in a crisis pregnancy......and exploit and take advantage of her. This is an opportunity to for them to procure a baby, and make some big bucks. The lifelong damage inflicted on the natural mom and baby is inconsequential to them. It is all about money. And it is all about this instant gratification society we live in, if you can't have a kid, you just buy one.

Adoptive parents have the more ethical choice of adopting from foster care, where childrens homes have ALREADY been broken, and these children are in desperate need of a home. Unfortunately, many AP's feel the desperate need to have a newborn baby, and will pay any price to get one.....and this overrides the needs OF the baby and natural mother. It becomes about the needs of the AP's. Money talks.

7rin

Adoption is where you're taken away from everything you've ever know, and everything you've ever loved, and put somewhere completely alien, with no familiar sounds, or smells, or looks, or anything. To top it off, you're also s'posed to act like all those things you've always known, and all of those things you've always loved, never existed.

The Adoption History Project

Before 1945, “fostering” referred to numerous arrangements in which children were cared for in homes other than their own. The point of the term was to contrast institutional care with family placements. The case for foster care was articulated by nineteenth-century child-savers, including Charles Loring Brace, publicized by the orphan trains, and advanced by states that experimented with placing-out children rather than consigning them to orphanages.

Statistics on the Effects of Adoption

ADOPTEES: Your analogies, please? How does it feel to grow up adopted?

• Growing up blindfolded
• Round peg in a square hole
• Like being a lamp placed under a basket
• Running original Amiga 500 [or 600, 1000, 1200, 2000, 3000, 4000] software on a Windows Amiga Emulator [WinUAE]
• Like being a puzzle with all the edges missing, and most of the center too
• Like being a book without the first chapters
• Like being stranded on an island in a sea of people
• Not having chapter 1 - and lacking the language skills to figure it out
• Like being onstage - but having memorized the lines for a different play and trying to improvise to be in the play I WAS in
• Given the parts for several different appliances, told it was one, and expected to somehow piece it together and make it work
• Being a red brick in a white wall
• Like being in a room with the light shut off, and I'm stumbling around for the light to turn it on